Couples
When working with couples, I utilize a mixed bag of theory, but EFT (aka attachment theory) is a large but not exclusive part of my thinking. Most importantly is the notion that a couple is a system – neither is to blame – each person contributes equally to the current situation. If you begin to reframe from there, things can start to change.
I look for the undercurrent of what is really happening, not what’s on the surface. So often, we get lost in daily life and lose that spark or the original excitement that brought us together. It’s important to look at what fundamental needs are not being met by each partner and how to learn (relearn) how to recognize each other as separate and unique with individual emotional needs.